Why You Should Stop Calling Your Girlfriends "Two-Faced"
By: Casey Harding-Brown
“She’s so two-faced, she’s so fake.” The amount of times I heard or said something along these lines while growing up is uncountable. I used to call one of my best friends “5-faced” because I felt she had a different personality for seemingly every person and situation.
What I later came to realize, and wished I had come to the conclusion sooner, was that my girlfriends weren’t fake, they were multi-faceted with personalities that had wide spectrums. What a beautiful thing that is!
Disclaimer: I am not referring to the person who says one thing to you and turns around and says the opposite to someone else. They are fake and you should consider cutting them out of your circle.
Since every person is unique, their relationships with other individuals are also unique. There is a reason we have more than one friend. Every person in our life brings something different to the table, including their vibe and energy. We pick up on this either consciously or subconsciously and we react in our own ways.
Have you ever been around someone really happy-go-lucky and all of a sudden you feel the same way? Or in the opposite effect, you feel the need to balance this energy so you put on a more “realistic point of view” disposition. This is because you are playing off each other’s vibe or personality.
If you’re hanging out with your girlfriend and another friend comes over and you notice a change in her mood or temperament don’t automatically think they’re being weird, different, fake etc. They might be being different than they are with YOU while still being true to themselves. Your relationship with them is unique and just how you act differently with your friends from work vs your friends from school vs your friends from childhood, they should be allowed the same freedom without your concern or judgment.
Different situations will also bring out different parts of people’s persona. Maybe you’ve never seen your girlfriend super stressed or dealing with a big life change and when they act differently than what you’ve seen before it might lead you to think they’re acting “off” but in reality, they are just being the versions of themselves they are feeling in that particular moment.
We as people also love to put others in categories. Extrovert, introvert, yogi, type-A, bitch, spiritual, religious etc. It is totally possible (and NORMAL!) for you to want to read a book one night and go drink copious amounts of alcohol and shake your ass in the club the next night.
Just because someone is a “yogi” doesn’t mean they have to be grounded and kind ALL the time. It’s not only impractical, but it’s also so limiting! The sooner you embrace your girlfriend’s multi-faceted selves the sooner you can stop limiting them, yourself and your relationship with them.
Ever since coming off my hormonal birth control, my monthly pre-period craving has become the world renowned classic, otherwise known as gelato, helado, or ice cream. I’m declaring this a safe space for what I am about to say (or should I say write) next is definitely controversial; Until recently, ice cream was never top of my list. To clarify, I am not a psychopath. If ice cream cake was presented at a birthday party, I would be excited about the upgrade from your standard yellow cake with chocolate frosting. If I found myself in Italy, you bet I was seeking out dulce de leche gelato. My dad routinely ended his night with a generous bowl of some sort of chocolate, coffee, nut combo before falling asleep with his head on my mom’s lap, no later than 9:30pm. It was readily available and normalized as an everyday treat, yet for whatever reason it wasn't my go to. I didn’t have anything against it per say, it just never called to me. Until recently that is. And ever since my hormones came back to their normal selves, I have been a mad woman on the hunt for the best ice cream in Denver.
Yes, yes it may officially be fall but with temperatures hovering in the 80’s all week, I say ice cream season is still in full swing. Also, who doesn’t like ice cream year round? Why should we confine such a delectable dessert to one season?! Plus many places now offer seasonal flavors such as pumpkin chocolate chip. Whatever the weather may be, I hope you enjoy indulging in these woman owned ice cream shops as much as I did.